May 14th, 2007when life hands you lemons
My friend King’s dad died this weekend. He’d had a heart attack a few weeks ago, but according to King had been doing just fine.
It always sucks when someone you know, someone who is relatively close in age to yourself, loses a parent. Particularly for someone like him, who lost his mom years ago. Now he and his brother are all that’s left of his family unit.
I also know that this means he’s really going to quit (this is my friend from work) and move down South, because now he really has nothing at all keeping him up here. That’s sad. 🙁
The wake is on Wednesday. He really hates this job, and only likes three of us who work there, but my boss sent an email that said, “I asked him if he was open to having some office visitors at the wake and he said we were welcome, but shouldn’t feel obligated,” and I really don’t know what to do.
On one hand, I hate it when people go to those things just for show, and I swear that is what half of these people would be doing. And also, he hates this job, why, on such a day, would he want to be reminded of these people, this job?
I really am not super close to him.. at what level of knowing someone do you go to a funeral? I don’t want to be one of those people who goes there for show.
What do y’all think?
Though situation, especially because anything you would say doesn’t help at all. The best is being close to him in case he might need anything from a friend 🙂
Comment by Me, Myself and I — May 14, 2007 @ 2:49 pm
Are they having a wake/viewing? If you don’t want to go the funeral service itself, go to the wake and offer your condolences. Since he’s leaving soon, it would probably be nice for him to have the few co-workers he actually liked there to be supportive of him during a time of such upheaval.
Comment by Jen — May 14, 2007 @ 3:01 pm