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January 26th, 2009
to gift or not to gift

Whenever anyone asks me about the wedding, the question of gifts always comes up. And inevitably I end up defending my decision to not ask for gifts. I will not be registering for anything and we’re going to list charities people can donate too if they feel so compelled… but that’s never a good enough answer.

Don’t you want wedding china or silver?
Are you kidding? I’m a klutz and I break everything.. plus, there is no way I’m going to polish silver. Ever. No chance.

Everyone wants something, you can ask for anything!
We buy what we need/want and we’ve both lived on our own for years. I have every kitchen appliance known to man and I’ve been given almost all the dishes that I need.

What are you going to do when people insist?
Send them the list of charities to donate too or graciously accept cash and use it for the honeymoon.

I’ve been in and too a few weddings, and each one cost me a lot of money. If you’re in it, you buy the dress, matching shoes, get your hair done, plus you still owe presents. And then there’s the getting there (flight), car rental, hotel, etc.

We’re already having the wedding in a remote location, so everyone who comes is going to shell out a lot of money to get there, and we just want them to have fun and relax and party with us. That’s gift enough.

This, my standard response, is never good enough. And I don’t get it. We don’t need anything, and people are already spending money on us by coming… why are gifts such a big deal?

(Seriously, does anyone know?)

posted in: hilarity,wedding — @ 3:43 pm


  1. Hey Insinder,
    I totally hear you on the “no gifts” thing. I did the same thing for Christmas. It was so much nicer not being stressed out about what to buy for people who already have everything!

    Comment by The Guest — Tuesday.January.27.2009 @ 2:03 pm

  2. people need to give things. i’m sure you’ve got the urge to buy things for people who say the don’t need/want anything.

    but you can always say if they get you anything you’ll just sell it on ebay so they might as well not get you anything at all…

    or if you’re lucky you’ll get like a million egg cups, a crap load of ugly wedding frames, and some seriously creepy figurines.

    Comment by wendykat — Tuesday.February.3.2009 @ 3:58 pm

  3. Annnnnnnd guess what YOU’LL be getting for baby presents?


    Comment by the insider — Tuesday.February.3.2009 @ 5:27 pm

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